once again, procrastinating schoolwork by researching MORE graduate programs. this is the weirdest habit.

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"The essay is a form I’ve always found oppressive, a form so conservative it begs to be dismantled. In the San Francisco avant garde feminist poetic circle of the early 80s, a sort of patchwork personal essay was de rigueur. The feminist poetic essay was riddled with collaged texts and vulnerability. It switched person at will, “I” flipping to “she,” inside magically flipping to outside, and back again. I didn’t know what to make of all these anti-logocentric Theresa Cha/Cixous/Irigaray inspired poetic prose things, spastically shifting and disrupting before my eyes with no apparent rhyme or reason. 80s avant garde feminism produced lots of self-indulgent, sloppy work, but still it was exciting - and important - to undermine the patriarchal hegemony that created the MLA Style Sheet. Around the same time I discovered Kathy Acker, who in some novel had a character shit on a priest’s altar - which I’m sure she got from Bataille. Even though desecrating Catholic icons is so old school, has been done to death, the zeal with which Acker does it is infectious. Passion in writing or art - or in a lover - can make you overlook a lot of flaws. Passion is underrated. I think we should all produce work with the urgency of outsider artists, panting and jerking off to our kinky private obsessions. Sophistication is conformist, deadening. Let’s get rid of it."

Dodie Bellamy in the Barf Manifesto as quoted by Kate Zambreno in Frances Farmer Is My Sister

I think these days, though, people underestimate the disciplined power a bit of formalism can lend them. There’s no shame in appropriating the canon for one’s own ends, after all. Passion combined with discipline is a heady and effective combination.

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"Is it political if I tell you that if we burn coal, you’re going to warm the atmosphere? Or is that a statement of fact that you’ve made political? It’s a scientific statement. The fact that there are elements of society that have made it political, that’s a whole other thing."

Neil deGrasse Tyson (via socio-logic)

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so, at what point are your friends going to step back from telling you how beautiful & amazing you look (subtext: now), and ask you how your eating disorder is?

how are people so fucking blind to the way the women they love treat their bodies? how do they perpetuate the behaviour with approval and not even notice?

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What Sexual Violence Looks Like


I realize what I’m opening myself up to here, but I think it’s important.

I was blown away by the rape scene on tonight’s Game of Thrones. I turned to my husband and said, “That doesn’t happen in the books. Jaime would never rape Cersei. She is 100% on board with…

oh. this is actually a really interesting reading of the scene! thanks, you two!

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Why David Benioff and D.B. Weiss raped Cersei Lannister


Much has already been written about Sunday’s controversial episode of Game of Thrones. The episode itself was actually rather dull—a lot of exposition and little action—but one particular scene has already garnered thousands of keystrokes, hundreds of outraged tweets, and…

this is a long, meandering, and not-explicit-enough way of saying that sunday’s episode was full of bullshit victim blaming and justification of rape, and that is FUCKED UP.

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demisexuality and lithsexuality don’t describe who you’re attracted to. they describe the nature of that attraction. that is not the same as a sexual orientation

just go home kids ok you’re straight

hmmm. first, it’s super fucked up that the second part of the post above is a sweeping, unfair, unfounded generalisation that completely erases the experiences of people who identify as lith or demisexual but are not straight.

that being said — the first part about lith- and demi-sexuality being about the nature of attraction rather than a sexuality really interests me. we’re forever trying to figure out the most inclusive acronym (LGBTQ, LGBTQIA2S, etc.) until it can get cumbersome and frankly useless. i agree with not including the nature of attraction in the acronym; i want my orientation acknowledged, not the conditions of my attraction to folks.

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The Dress Looks Nice On You by Sufjan Stevens [lyrics]

I can see a fireside turn blue
And I can see the lot of life in you
Yes, I can see a lot of life in you

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Hey guys, so my eating disorder is really out of control again, and I need treatment, badly. I got accepted at Timberline Knolls, but they need $2,000 for my copay, plus I need a ticket to a from (I live in California). I spent 5 1/2 months at another…

signal boosting.

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An outline for loving relationships, a doctrine for intimate revolutionaries & relationship anarchists, and a reminder to myself to live each day authentically. 

  • I respect that each connection in my life will find its own right place, time, and spirit – with an appreciative understanding that each connection evolves in unpredictable ways. 
  • I realize and value that there are all kinds of love, and not all of them are sexual. I will be open to all expressions of love. I will give and receive love freely and often. 
  • I do not believe in placing arbitrary limits on myself or others based on an understanding of love as a finite commodity. I firmly believe that the more love I give, the more it grows and that people have an unlimited capacity to love. 
  • I will strive to be aware of how social conditioning is affecting my responses to love, and work towards breaking bad habits so that love can be redefined, explored, and expressed without hindrance. 
  • I appreciate that each expression of love is special. I recognize that all love has value and that one kind of love can never be better than another. 
  • I will keep my heart open to receive love. I will keep my heart open to give love. I will not be afraid to explore and express love frequently in multiple ways. I will be open to vulnerability and intimacy. I will lower my shield to let love in and will slow down and listen when my shield goes up. 
  • I understand that people have varied needs, that one person cannot fulfill all needs of another, and it is our responsibility to express and get our own needs met. I recognize that this builds community and connection, which is the goal and helps to spread love. 
  • I will encourage those I love to love more. I will be supportive when someone I love finds love or expresses love. I will look inward if any expression of love causes me to feel threatened or insecure. I will be open to being told I am not being supportive. 
  • I will examine my own fears and strive to not let them get in the way of expressing and experiencing love. I will listen with an open heart if someone’s honesty hurts me. I will strive to always respond with grace and speak authentically. 
  • I believe in being open to change and fluidity in relationships, even when it hurts. I believe love is the absence of guilt and fear. I believe love is acceptance that love involves choices. 
  • I recognize that love can become strained, love can be withheld, and love can be painful. I will strive to be honest with myself and others in order to remain compassionate to myself and others. 
  • I respect that love fosters deep bonds, and that expressions of love should be encouraged without the fear of threatening someone else’s comfort. I believe that compassion, safety, trust, and respect are essential to maintaining love. 
  • I believe that self-love is essential, and without it, love is impossible.

Great list. Some of which is a work in progress for me.


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