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dragon girl.
queer. poet, feminist, hedonist.

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i like it dirty.


"November 19th, 2013,
‘Selfie’ was named the Word of the Year by the Oxford Dictionary
Pseudo-intellectuals everywhere cried about the ‘death of the English language’
Because God forbid modern colloquial speech be recognised as valid.
Time Magazine refers to ‘millenials’ as the ‘me me me generation’
Selfish, all we care about is personal gratification
Lazy, entitled, shallow narcissists.
A picture of a girl taking a selfie on her phone is used for the cover
Because our selfishness can be summed up in the fact that we like how we look enough to document it.
We are consumed, they tell us, with our self image.
Everything is about us.
Me-me-me.
With the addition of every word to the dictionary,
‘Hashtag’. ‘Perf’. ‘Sexting’. ‘Totes’. ‘Selfie’,
The ‘me-me-me’ generation continues to make it all about ourselves,
And we should, they tell us, weep,
We should weep because we are entitled,
Because all we care about are selfies and parties and Instagram,
Because this is the generation that will one day run the world,
And for that, we should weep,
Because all we are is ‘me-me-me’.
Let me tell you something.
Every year, university tuition will be 2.3% more expensive for MY GENERATION,
MY GENERATION reports the highest levels of anxiety and depression than ANY other generation,
15% more of US than YOU will go to university,
But 46% of MY GENERATION won’t find a job until over a year after law school,
MY GENERATION, on average, is $47,628 in debt.
58% of girls in MY GENERATION feels like they are the wrong weight,
95% of people with eating disorders are part of MY GENERATION,
And MY GENERATION has a million dollar industry telling us that we are not good enough,
That we are ugly, lazy, and entitled,
And anything we do to be financially successful,
Or less stressed,
Or beautiful, god dammit,
Is in vain.
So pick up your phone,
Pick your favourite filter,
And take a goddamn selfie.
You deserve it for having to grow up in these times."
My poem, ‘Hashtag Selfie’. (via dingdongyouarewrong)

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lizdoesstuff:

The ‘A’ is not for Allies.

THE “A” IS NOT FOR ALLIES.

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#from the rooftops this time 
"At what point do you take girls out of school altogether because boys can’t handle it?"
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How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

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Amen to this

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i want to kiss all of my friends on the mouth.

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dawnawakened:

Christine Muraton, New Perception (2014)

"French photographer Christine Muraton has an extraordinary talent for capturing hauntingly stunning photographs that convey intriguing stories. Inspired by literature, classical studies, philosophy, and psychology, the photographer creates highly atmospheric portraits that are often visually and conceptually ambiguous. Figures are blurred, obscured, or have their backs turned to the viewer, concealing identities by never fully revealing their faces. Subjects blend into unreal landscapes, raising further questions of who they are and what they’re doing in such fantastic places." - Jenny Zhang

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on your “weird food thing”.

deuxencore:

maybe you eat fistfuls of saltines from the box, eyes glazed in a blood-sugar slump, because it’s the only food that doesn’t remind you of fingers in your throat and the taste of bile.

maybe you eat your pizza in tiny bites, make it last as long as possible, hours to eat the entire thing.

or maybe you stand, teary-throated, before the open refrigerator, hungry enough to collapse but not enough to force yourself to eat what is there. i know that if you’re going to eat, to feel terrible when you let go of that control, you need to love your food. 

when you see what i made you for dinner and suddenly you aren’t hungry, i will put the chicken and rice and asparagus in the fridge.  i will still love you when, only minutes later, you are eating a bowl of cheerios with brown sugar at lightning speed. 

when we go out to eat and you order an omelet from the menu, then dissect it when your plate comes, scraping cheese and dabbing oil with your napkin, please do not feel shame. 

i will not judge you when you ask for three or four or five substitutions in your order, afraid to be rude but more afraid to eat “bad” food.  if what arrives is wrong and the blood rises in your cheeks, if you are too terrified to eat it and too embarrassed to send it back, i will talk to the server for you. 

i won’t pretend i don’t want the rest of my french fries so you can have them – i will get an order to go, and we can eat them in the car where no one sees you. 

i will never profess surprise at how much you can eat.

if you don’t eat the gluten-free meal your aunt made just for you because you know it has been cross-contaminated, i won’t say a word about the drive-through cheeseburger you ate only hours before.

when you don’t eat all day and order greasy takeout at midnight, hide in bed to eat it all at once, i will grab a fork and cuddle in with you.

you eat to feed more than just your stomach.

i promise i will love you.

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#trigger warning ED  #trigger warning eating disorders  #food tag  #anorexia  #bulimia  #EDNOS  #orthorexia  #solidarity  #love  #feminism  #poem 
Anonyme a demandé: Any advice for a monogamous person seeing a polyamorus person and is not 100 % sure how they feel about it?


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my immediate thought is to check in with yourself about your specific reservations and hesitations!  what is it that’s making you feel unsure?  i think that’s step one.  if you’d like to chat with me more about that, i’d love to; i just don’t feel comfortable giving advice without knowing where your hesitation comes from.  i don’t want to put words in your mouth! xo

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#ask  #polyamory 

allies who stand up occasionally, or when it’s comfortable, or when it suits them are not allies at all.

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#allies  #feminism  #social justice